Marina Fogle on The Parent Hood Podcast, #SelfCare and Why There’s No Such Thing as the Perfect Mother
Family expert Marina Fogle on why there is no such thing as the perfect mother, #SelfCare and The Parent Hood podcast
Words: Hesham Abdelhamid
Photography: Courtesy Marina Fogle / The Parent Hood Podcast
There are some topics that stir up fevered conversations on social media, and parenting is one that is guaranteed to get people talking. Aside from how physically and mentally draining being a mother is, there’s an added pressure to be the perfect mum with all the ‘Pinterest-worthy’ recipes and beach-ready bikini bodies.
For some people, motherhood comes naturally to them; others struggle to navigate that curve. That’s why people like family expert Fogle are vital in today’s mum-climate.
‘Being a mother is hard work and it’s a constant learning curve,’ says Marina Fogle. ‘There is no such thing as the perfect mother, it’s a high expectation we set for ourselves because we want our children to be the best,’ she says, ‘and in the process, sometimes we forget who we are. That’s why I love my job. I get to help other mothers with my own experiences.’
Living in North Kensington, Fogle is wife to adventurer-husband Ben, mother to Ludo, Iona and Storm the family dog. She has always tackled this sometimes controversial and always astonishing topic head-on in her work over the years – from pregnancy to family and from parenting matters to confidence issues.
In her new venture, The Parent Hood podcast, Fogle extends the conversation about being a mother beyond her books and successful masterclasses: ‘The Bump Classes [which she co-founded with her sister, Dr Chiara Hunt], where the idea stemmed from, are very much classes where you’ll learn something, and The Parent Hood has morphed into a conversation about how we communicate. Communication lies at the heart of our relationships with our children.’
‘There is no such thing as the perfect mother, it’s a high expectation we set for ourselves because we want our children to be the best, and in the process, sometimes we forget who we are’
The podcast covers a wide range of topics and answers those deep-rooted motherhood questions that no book or masterclass could answer: ‘My antenatal classes are oversubscribed, and my book has been translated into five different languages, I guess people like what we have to offer,’ she says. ‘This [podcast] makes me so, so excited to be able to engage with a wider audience and talk about the unique cocktail of challenges, euphoria, tedium and surprise that makes up being a parent.’
In one episode, titled ‘Why self-care is what your child will be most grateful for’, Fogle talks to Clio Wood, a post-natal counsellor, about the importance of self-care for both parents and how to realistically achieve this – all while sharing stories with an abundance of knowledge.
Fogle’s self-care routine is simple and rewarding: ‘I often get up a bit earlier than everyone else in the house and take half an hour to myself when the world is quiet, just sitting down reading the paper with a cup of tea or doing some emails. It’s a nice, serene start to the day, which is often chaotic,’ she laughs. ‘I also love reading. I just read How to Fail [by Elizabeth Day] which is great and Educated by Tara Westover.
‘Conversation is so important between mothers,’ Fogle continues, ‘I think that we should all learn from each other. I love giving and receiving advice from other mothers and fathers. That’s why I love doing the podcast.’
‘I think that we should all learn from each other. I love giving and receiving advice from other mothers and fathers. That’s why I love doing the podcast’
What’s the best advice she has ever been given? ‘Add life to your days, not days to your life. I’m a big believer in living in the now and taking risks. Our purpose in life, really, is to have as much fun as we can while we have the privilege to live.’
The Parent Hood offers up answers to the things parents want to know about. It’s not just any information – it’s impartial, engaging and professional advice delivered by experts, a world away from Google. So, whether your child has reflux, nits or you’re worried about going back to work, they’ve got it covered.
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